GNYAIRT Chapter Update June 28, 2016

Hi Everyone,
I would like to start this update by thanking everyone who filled out the feedback survey and/ or came to our GNYAIRT brainstorming chapter meeting. As a result of your input the GNYAIRT Board has decided to focus on including more IMAGO related material in our chapter meetings. We hope that will satisfy both our long term members while offering those new to imago an incentive to attend our meetings. We are also going to reach out to those therapists who are now in training or have recently completed their training. We hope to put in place a buddy system to help new members feel more welcome and included. If any of you are interested in being a buddy please contact. Barbara Mitchell – [email protected]

Thanks also to Clayton Horsey who has completed his term as GNYAIRT’s Treasury and big welcome to Pamela Wood who has stepped up to become our new treasurer. I would also like to thank Ellen Weber who continues to serve as our representative to IRI’s global committee.

As a result of your input we will also be looking into getting NYS Ceus. Anyone interested in helping to facilitate the process please contact me ([email protected]).

Not all our feedback came from our surveys or our brainstorming meeting some came from our direct observations. For the past several years the attendance at our Chapter tea has fallen off. The group and board felt that we might like to try something less formal and more playful to attract some of our newer members. So we came up with a “Spring Fling for GNYAIRT Friends and Family” details to follow. At this point I would like to give a big shout out to Robert Marantz for allowing us to host our Tea at his beautiful home. Thank you so much for your years of generosity and hospitality.

Please save the following dates for next year. (More detailed information will follow in weeks to come)
Sept 30, 2016 chapter meeting
Nov 18, 2016 chapter meeting update
Dec 9, 2016 Workshop 10am to 4pm presented by Marge Nichols, PhD (Many of you might of read her article on Transgender in the Networker)
Jan 27. 2017 Workshop 9:30 till 4:30 presented by Sylvia Rosenfeld
Awakening Eros- Sexual Desire & Erotic Intimacy
March 3, 2017 Chapter meeting Barbara Mitchell – Imago and Money Issues
Sunday April 23, 2017 Spring Fling for friends and family 3-5pm
May ? Workshop with Diana Fosha 10-4 exact date and topic to follow
June 9,2017 Final Chapter meeting

One of the most significant insights to come out of the meeting was how important this community is to our members. Because that is what we are – A community. Yes, it is IMAGO that has brought us together but the reason we stay is the amazing connection we feel toward one another. This is a community that loves to learn and share its knowledge and learning with one another. Many or most of us have been trained in a multitude of therapeutic modalities and have acquired many skills over the years which we share and bring back to our community. Most of us are sole practitioners and having a community of like minded people to connect with, helps to eliminate the isolation one tends to feel in such a situation. We are a community who still feels excitement and passion with our profession. It is for all this that we want to preserve, maintain and grow our community. We want to share this community with those new to IMAGO because we love to share.

GNYAIRT Schedule 2016 -2017


All chapter meeting and workshops (excepted when otherwise stated ) are held at Actors Theatre Workshop – 145 West 28th St. Between 6th and 7th, Avenue 3rd floor
Because we rent the space for a limited time only we request that you arrive no more than 15 minutes early. Thank you for your understanding and cooperation. Also we can’t always control the temperature of the rooms so bring an extra wrap and/or a hand held fan. Last but not least – please add this address to your phone contacts so you don’t forget.

Based on the feedback from our BRAINSTORMING CHAPTER MEETING your GNYAIRT Board has elected to incorporate more IMAGO specific material in this years schedule. We are hoping that those of you who are currently in training or have recently completed your training will attend, join and benefit from the years of experience that our members and community have to offer.

We invite you to join us on the following dates:

Sept 30, 2016 noon – 2pm
We are asking our members to bring in their best IMAGO interventions – their pearls and nuggets, Make them concrete, specific and between 5-7 minutes long.
Because our Community is so well trained, innovative, creative and has a love to share, this promises to be informative, thought provoking, rewarding and filled with growth opportunities for all.

November 18, 2016 noon – 2pm
Chapter meeting International Clinical Update: One of the most amazing things about IMAGO is that although it’s fundamental Theory and Process remain, Master Practitioners have continued to expand the knowledge base as well as it’s application to other formats such as working with siblings, inter-generational relationships, work conflicts; even peace initiatives (Palestinians and Israelis). At this meeting, those members who have attended the meetings and workshops in Long Beach, CA will share/teach us some of their new IMAGO wisdom. If you plan on attending please notify Linda Schnapp 914-381-0311 so she can coordinate presenters.

December 9, 2016 10 am to 4 pm
Workshop presented by Marge Nichols, PhD (You might of read her article on Transgender in the Networker) Marge is IMAGO trained and we are working on getting IMAGO continuing ed credits for this workshop. She is an international speaker on LGBTQ issues and author of many articles and papers on LGBTQ sexuality and mental health issues. Read about costs and details of workshop on her presenter page.
Lunch will be served at workshop – bring your own hot beverage.


January 27, 2017 9:30 am to 4:30 pm
Workshop presented by Sylvia Rosenfeld
Awakening Eros- Sexual Desire & Erotic Intimacy Through an Imago Lens
Read description on Workshop Presenter’s page. Please note the extended hours, Sylvia has so much to offer on this subject that she requested extra time.
Lunch will be served. Bring your own hot beverage

March 3, 2017 noon – 2pm
Chapter meeting Barbara Mitchell – Imago and Money Issues
Excerpt from a previous GNYAIRT newsletter: We know that partners are often wounded at the same stage but develop opposite adaptations. So what we see is a struggle over the use of money for different emotional needs—a power struggle like any other, but acted out in the realm of money.
But since we also know that “conflict is growth trying to happen”, helping the couple to unravel the unconscious meaning that money represents for each of them loosens the hold it has on their psyches, opening the way for other choices. The couples dialogue fosters empathy and connection as each partner enters the money world of the other.
Barbara will demonstrate working with a couple using the Imago dialogue and theory on Money Issues.

Sunday April 23, 2017
Spring Fling for friends and family 3-5 pm
The Royal Palms Shuffleboard Club
514 Union St, Brooklyn, NY 11215 – go to event calendar 

May 5 or 12, 2017 10 am to 4 pm to be announced
Workshop – we are still working hard to get someone extra special – stay tuned.


June 9, 2017 noon – 2 pm
Final Chapter meeting – Imago subject yet to be determined.



All chapter meeting and workshops (excepted when otherwise stated ) are held at Actors Theatre Workshop – 145 West 28th St. Between 6th and 7th, Avenue 3rd floor

Remember to save the following dates:

September 18, 2015 CHAPTER MEETING 12noon to 2pm
Herb Tannenbaum, Ph.D. will present on “Unconscious Self Hatred as Resistance in Couples Therapy” The workshop is based on the social and psychological journeys as described in Imago Relationship theory and the intrapsychic dynamics that create resistance to change for couples. It is further based on core Imago theory and integration of an understanding of Psychoanalytic dynamics of the repetition compulsion of the psychic economy. Those of you who were fortunate enough to have been trained by Herb Tannenbaum, Gene Shelly and Joan Lakin Marantz, know what a treat this will be.

November 6, 2015 CHAPTER MEETING 12noon to 2pm
Post conference meeting. Members who will be present at this years IRI International Conference will offer us the latest updates on the clinical workshops they attended. If you plan to attend the conference and would like to present at this meeting please contact Linda Schnapp. 914-381-0311 [email protected]


Feb 26, 2016 WORKSHOP 10am – 4pm
William Doherty – will present on “Discernment Counseling” the new approach for couples on the brink.

William Doherty PhD is a professor and Director of the Minnesota Couples on the Brink Project at the University of Minnesota. His books include “Take Back your Marriage,“ “Take Back your Kids” and “Family Therapy” with Susan McDaniel.
Discernment Counseling is a way for couples to look at their options before making a final decision about divorce. Is most appropriate for couples where one partner wants to preserve and repair the relationship and the other is leaning towards ending it. Research shows that this kind of ‘mixed agenda’ is common among couples approaching divorce, and there is a dearth of special services for them. It also a common (and difficult) presentation in couples counseling. Discernment counseling is different from regular marriage counseling in three ways: a) the goal is not to solve problems in the relationship, but to figure out whether the problems can be solved; b) the process involves mainly individual conversations with each partner since they have different needs and agendas and c) it is always short term

April 15, 2016 WORKSHOP 10am – 4pm
Lynn Lyons – will present on “Intergenerational Anxiety”

Anxiety is a very persistent master. When it moves into families, it takes over daily routines, schoolwork, bedtime, and recreation. This workshop teaches concrete counter intuitive strategies that normalize worry for families including: 1) expecting worried to show up and talking to it; 2) learning to be unsure and uncomfortable on purpose; 3) helping clients stay focused on what they want not what they want to avoid; 4) helping them remember their skills and strengths to keep moving forward.
Lynn Lyons LICSW, specializes in the treatment of anxious families and is the co-author of Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents and the companion book Playing with Anxiety Casey’s Guide for Teens and Kids.

CHAPTER MEETING May 13, 2016 12noon to 2pm
Sylvia Rosenfeld will present on “Finding the Sex you Lost”

June 3, 2016 WORKSHOP 10am – 4pm
Pat Love will be presenting
– more information will follow (no matter what she presents on you know it is going to be great)

CHAPTER MEETINGS are free for members and if we are not over booked you may also invite a friend who might be interested in learning more about IMAGO, GNYAIRT or the topic of the meeting.

WORSHOPS cost $195 per workshop for GNYAIRT members and $225 for non-members.
Discounts are available to GNYAIRT members only.

For those who wish to attend all 3 workshop there is a discount price of $450.
For those who wish to attend any 2 workshops the discount price is $370.
To sign up on line for these workshops please go to Log in as a member, and go to the event calendar, click on the earliest event you wish to attend. Then click on the combination that suits you best and pay on line. If you chose to register and pay by check you can do that by clicking paying with “check”. You can then mail your check to me at GNYAIRT c/o Irene Azar, 61 Irving Place, apt 3C, New York, NY 10003. Please write on the check which workshops you will be attending.

This might be a good time to remind you of our refund policy.

Refunds creates extra work for us and defeats our desire to know if we can open up the workshop to others. In addition, we are charged both a fee and a percentage of the price by PayPal. When Clayton or I write a refund check it costs us time, money, also necessitating extra record and bookkeeping responsibilities and missed opportunity to offer the ticket to someone else.

All refunds will be pro-rated according to the discount provided. For example – you paid $450 for 3 workshops and can now attend only 1, you will receive a refund check of $255 minus $25 to cover the costs of the fees we incurred. You paid $450 for 3 and can now only attend 2, you will receive a refund check of $80 minus $25 to cover the costs of the fees we incurred. You paid $370 for 2 and can now only attend 1, you will receive a refund check of $175 minus $25 to cover the costs of the fees we incurred.

There will be only a 50% refund for cancellations during the 7 days preceding a workshop. Of course you are always welcome to offer your place to a colleague or friend.

We hope this is clear and eliminates confusion.


GNYAIRT 2014-201

Friday September 19th 12noon to 2pm

Bruce Hillowe who is both an attorney and a therapist will present on how we can best protect ourselves from malpractice.

Sunday October 5, 2014 WORKSHOP
Hedy Schleifer 9am-6am

Join Hedy Schleifer, MA, LMHC, for a one day advanced clinical training, as she continues to deepen her latest thinking about the integrative and inter-disciplinary approach that she calls Encounter-centered Couples Therapy
The cost to members is $195 and to non-members $225. You can pay for it on our new website. We are also offering a deep discount to members who wish to come to all three workshops of $450 also payable with credit card on the “” website. This workshop will fill up fast and it will be filled on a first come first serve basis. (Depending on how many extra people sign up we might look for a larger space.) I have already started a list of people who wish to attend. See the end of this email for full details about this workshop. *

Friday November 14, 2014 12noon to 2pm

Post conference meeting. Members who will be present at this years IRI International Conference will offer us the latest updates on the clinical workshops they attended. If you plan to attend the conference and would like to present at this meeting please contact Linda Schnapp-


Friday Feb 6, 2015 WORKSHOP 9am – 3pm
Maya Kollman

Deepen your IMAGO skills and understanding with this IMAGO master – more information will follow at a later date. The cost to members is $195 and to non-members $225. You can pay for it on our new website.We are also offering a deep discount to members who wish to come to all three workshops of $450 also payable with credit card on the “” website.

Friday March 6, 2015 12noon to 2pm

Cheryl Dollinger Brown and Sylvia Rosenfeld will present on Stan Tactin’s work.
Stan Tatkin, Psy. D, MFT is the founder of the PACT Training Institute[1] and the developer of PACT– A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy. PACT is an integration of neuroscience, arousal regulation, andattachment theory.This therapy modality centers on early attachment and its effect on the development of the brain and the nervous system. Also, PACT encourages couples to participate in secure-functioning relationships, even if the individuals themselves do not have secure attachment.
Dr. Tatkin is the author of Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner’s Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship, and Your Brain on Love: The Neurobiology of Healthy Relationships,as well as the co-author with Marion Soloman of Love and War in Intimate Relationships: Connection, Disconnection, and Mutual Regulation in Couple Therapy.

May 15, 2015 Friday
WORKSHOP 10am – 4pm
Karyn Schorr & Catherine Calvert
will present on DBT and Sensory Integration The cost to members is $195 and to non-members $225. You can pay for it on our new website. We are also offering a deep discount to members who wish to come to all three workshops of $450 also payable with credit card on the “” website.

June 12, 2015
GNYAIRT Chapter meeting 12- 2pm. Actors Theatre Workshop 145 west 28th street – between 6 & 7th avenues 3rd floor
At our final meeting we will be reviewing all of this season’s workshops and how they have been integrated into our practices. This promises to be an exciting opportunity to learn from and share with your fellow members. If you missed any of the workshops this is your chance to catch up and find out what you have missed.
In the past the last chapter meeting has always been lively and interesting. We do hope to see you there.

Many or Most of you who are members have received a reminder to pay your dues. A big THANK YOU to all those who have already renewed – you make my life so much easier.

For the rest of you please note that it is once again the time of the year that we ask you to renew your commitment to and membership in GNYAIRT. Membership is $85 and runs from June 1, 2015 – May 31, 2016
No matter when you decide to pay your membership dues they end May 31, 2016.
Because we now file a tax return (Thank you Clayton) we need to operate like other organizations with a fiscal year. Ours is from August 1 till July 31. That gives the stragglers among you an extra 60 days to pay your dues. Your dues allows us to create a budget to pay for rent, postage, the website, and allows us the flexibility to plan for future workshops and events. When they straggle in we are working in the dark.

You can pay your dues on line by logging in to our website We accept all credit cards except AMEX.
*For those of you who were unable to pay on line in past years we are now using PayPal which is extremely reliable and safe. You may also pay by check. Make the check out to GNYAIRT and send it to GNYAIRT c/o Irene Azar, 61 Irving Place, Apt 3C, New York, NY 10003

IMPORTANT – I strongly recommend that you go on line and use this opportunity to update your information.

BENEFITS – You can now share with the public all your other specialties such as EMDR, EFT etc, your days of operation, and your other language skills. Please remember that all information you place on the website will be searchable by the public. So do not put down any information that you do not want available to the public. Also you can post 2 office addresses but one will have a map and the other will not. OFFICE #1 will have map. You decide which one to place as office #1 and office #2 (no map). Also this website allows clients to contact you directly from the site.

Finally the Yahoo list serve. If you have changed your email address you will need to go to the yahoo list and sign up again with your new email address if you wish to send out messages using this NEW address. Then, with your say so I will remove your defunct email address.

Please forward this email to anyone you may know who has complained about not getting emails about chapter meetings and workshops

Okay – that is enough information for one email.
Summary – Go to and renew or sign up for membership ASAP.
Thank You

GTLYW workshops offered by our members

Below you will find the members of GNYAIRT who are certified by IRI to present workshops in our area.
To find up to date information on where and when these fine presenters will be offering their workshops go to the WORKSHOP page. Find workshops

“Getting the Love You Want” Workshop for Couples”
Presented by Christine Petrik
COST: $890.00 per couple (materials included)
For more information and to register: 212-769-1222 or 609-884-5420
[email protected]
“Getting the Love You Want” Workshop for Couples
Linda Schnapp, L.C.S.W. and her daughter Marisa Schnapp, Psy.D.
For more information and to register:
(914) 282 1698
The Courtyard Marriot, Rye, NY


“Getting the Love You Want” Workshop for Couples!
Presented by Carol Kramer Slepian, LCSW and Steve Slepian, MA

$750 per couple (includes: manual, lite breakfast and snacks)
For more information: call: carol @ 212.713.1688 or email: [email protected]


New York City canceled however if you are interested please contact Carol
Intensive Small Group Training in Imago Couples’ Therapy
Carol Kramer Slepian, LCSW
This intensive 96-hour training in Imago Relationship Therapy leads to certification as an Imago Relationship Therapist (for therapists/clinicians) This in-depth training will equip you to work successfully with the most challenging couples and relationship dynamics. Through this training, you will move your professional skills to a more advanced level and learn how to move a couple beyond the power struggle into a renewed level of empathic connection and commitment. As you develop your potential as a couples’ therapist, you will also deepen your skills in working with groups and individuals, while enhancing healing and growth in your own relationships.

WHO: Therapists/Clinicians
WHEN: ( see dates below)
WHERE: New York City (Upper West Side)
COST: Level One (12-days) -$3,000 ($750 deposit to Imago Relationship International; Installments acceptable)
Level Two (Six months of Supervision/group or individual)
Clinical Instructor: Carol J. Kramer Slepian, LCSW, an Advanced Imago Therapist, trained by Dr. Harville Hendrix, has presented the “Getting the Love You Want” workshop and the “Keeping the Love You Find” workshops for the past 10 years, with her husband Steve Slepian. Carol is a Clinical Instructor on the Imago faculty. She is also a Focusing Trainer and a Level II EMDR practitioner. Carol practices in Manhattan and in the Berkshires.
REGISTER EARLY – Space is limited
96 CEU’s for 12-day training
For more information and to register contact:
Preston Walters |Marketing &TrainingCoordinator
Imago Relationships International
P 1.859.226.4241 / F
[email protected] |
Carol Kramer Slepian, LCSW – 212.713.1688 [email protected]
New York City:
Days 1 & 2 – Sat – Sun. June 7th – 8th 2014
Days 3 & 4 – Sat – Sun. Sept. 13th – 14th 2014
Days 5 – 8 Thurs – Sun. November 6th – 9th, 2014
Days 9 – 12 Thurs – Sun. January 8th – 11th, 2015
Please feel free to contact me @ 646.337.6464 if you have any questions or concerns,


A big thank you to Clayton Horsey who led a panel on “Counter-transference in Psychotherapy” and to the panel of presenters, Jerry Katz, Cheryl Dolinger Brown and Barbara Mitchell who shared some of their own experiences on the subject. This was followed by a group discussion.

ELECTION RESULTS Also announced at the Chapter meeting are the results of the election. Irene S. Azar is the new president, Judith Clarke is now vice president and Clayton Horsey will continue on as Treasurer and Lauren Levy will continue on as Secretary. Linda Schnapp and Charlotte Wolovsky will continue to head up our Continuing education committee and Barbara Mitchell as the outgoing President will continue to offer support and council to the board.

Trainee Delegate: It was also announced that Marisa Schnapp has been appointed as our first ever Trainee Delegate to the Board. It is the board’s hope and desire that having a liaison to the new therapists in training will increase their participation and connection to our Chapter.

We are also looking for a volunteer to be our (the GNYAIRT) delegate to the IRI international Committee. The committee meets once a month using a conference phone call connection and once a year in person just a few days before the IRI conference. This year the conference will be near Washington DC so it is quite doable by car. This is a wonderful opportunity to make world wide connections in the IMAGO community as well as have some impact on IMAGO world wide. If this sounds like something you might like to know more about please contact Clayton Horsey who was our former delegate. [email protected]

Linda Schnapp spoke about our next workshop presenter Lisa Ferentz – May 16 2014.
Both Marisa and Linda urged us not to miss this opportunity. Lisa is a day long presenter at the Family Networker Conference and is invited back year after year. She is a dynamic speaker and presenter. Lisa has published 2 books “Treating Self-destructive Behaviors in Trauma Survivors: A Clinician’s Guide” and most recently “Letting go of Self Destructive Behaviors: Workbook of Hope and Healing”. To learn more about Lisa go to
To sign up email [email protected]

Do you wish to present? Deadline for consideration in next years lineup is 5/18/2014.
Linda also made a request that those members who would like to present at either a workshop or a chapter meeting should fill out the attached form and send it to Linda ASAP. Also if you know of someone who might be of interest as a presenter at a chapter meeting or as a workshop presenter they too will need to fill out the form for consideration. Please send the completed form to [email protected]

Lauren Levy also announced that she will be presenting the
Connected Parents, Thriving Kids: The Imago Parenting Workshop
Dates: 5 Thursdays, May 15 to June 12, 7-9PM
. [email protected]
The objectives of the workshop are to help parents:
§ Develop a deeper understanding of themselves and their children
§ Deepen their connection with their children
§ Gain awareness of how the way they were parented impacts the way they parent their own children
§ Develop a repertoire of tools to calm their reactivity and meet their children’s emotional needs
§ Empower their children
§ Experience their own growth as they stretch to understand from their children’s perspective

The workshop will include:
§ Lectures
§ Guided visualizations
§ Live demonstrations
§ Written exercises
§ Exercises to practice communication skills

Breaking news — SAVE THE DATE —October 5, 2014
Linda had an opportunity to met with Hedy Schleifer at the Networker Conference and we are currently negotiating with her to come to our chapter on Sunday Oct 5, 2014. The day after Yom Kippur. The location will be determined by the response to our announcement. If you know of a location that might be suitable for 30 plus people please contact Judy Clarke [email protected]